Look After Yourself
Doing what you can to take care of your self can help things feel a bit more manageable.
Eat well and regularly
It is not a great idea to try and lose weight in the early days and weeks after having a baby. Trying to eat a varied diet with plenty of fruit and vegetables is a better plan and will help you cope with the lack of rest and help your energy levels.
Getting Out & About
In the early days and weeks after you have given birth you should follow the advice of your midwife and GP before restarting any energetic exercise. However getting out in the fresh air for walks will help your mood – start with shorter distances and see how you feel.
Rest and Relax
Resting and relaxing when you can is important. When you get any time, use it to wind down and care for yourself. Rest when you can and leave the household chores. As long as you do the basics to keep your kitchen and bathroom clean, most other things can wait. Having rest can make everything feel easier to cope with.
Make contact with others
Chat on the phone or on ‘zoom’ with friends. You don’t even need to get out of your pyjamas! Talk about the baby if you want to but it is good to talk about other things too!
Some parents tell us that they feel bad for finding being a new parent a hard job. They worry it means they are a bad parent and that if they tell other people they will think that too.
This is not true. Lots of parents and carers struggle at times with feeling down and are still very good parents. When you talk to friends and family, you will find many of them remember finding it hard too.
Health professionals know it can be tough and want to do everything they can to help you feel well, and be able to enjoy being a parent to your child.
Asking for help is always a positive step. You and your whole family will benefit from getting the right support.
If every day feels a struggle and your mood is making it hard to enjoy your time with your baby it is important you get help.
If over a couple of weeks most days you;
This can be a sign that your mood is low and you need to talk to a professional.
Some people might mainly have low mood, others will struggle to deal with anxiety as well. Anxiety can show itself when you;
Telling someone you are feeling anxious can mean you get the right help to stop it getting in the way of you doing the things you want, and need, to do.
Norfolk Wellbeing Services have a special ‘perinatal’ service to support women during pregnancy and after birth. They also offer webinars for parents with a baby where the stresses of the parenting role is impacting on their wellbeing. The workshops will look at all the changes which happen during this time and explore how these changes can leave people stuck in a negative cycle. It also offers strategies on how to break this cycle in order to manage low mood and worry.
When It Feels Too Much To Cope With
You might find that whilst you are struggling with your feelings, you feel irritable and short tempered. This could be with loved ones, including your baby. Your baby is very tuned in to your feelings and may sense your frustration.
It can be hard to cope with these feelings and is more common than you might think. It is important that, if you feel like this, you give yourself time to get back in control of your emotions.
Who Can Help?
Even in the middle of the night if you have no one to support you and you are worried about how you are feeling you can call 111 for support.
You can talk to your midwife (they are still there to help for the first 28 days after your baby is born). As well as your Health visitor or GP.
Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 have health professionals there to listen to how you are feeling. Sometimes just having someone to talk to can really help. They will be able to help you access any other support that could help you feel better too.
Norfolk Wellbeing Services have a special ‘perinatal’ service to support women during pregnancy and after birth.
If you or your partner are having thoughts of hurting yourself or others, or of ‘not wanting to be here’ – seek support straight away. Call 111 or your GP for advice.
Call 999 or go to your local A&E if you feel at risk of hurting yourself or your baby.
If you cannot make voice calls, you can now contact the 999 emergency services by SMS text from your mobile phone. Emergency SMS is part of the standard 999 service which has been designed specifically for people with hearing loss or difficulty with speech.
Talk to your midwife, health visitor, or GP if you are struggling to have positive feelings about your baby or worried about how you are feeling. Alternatively you can go to see your GP to discuss concerns.
You can contact the Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 or texting Parentline on 07520 631590. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.
If you are 11-19 you can text Chathealth on 07480 635060 for confidential advice from one of our team.
Qwell provides free, safe and anonymous mental wellbeing support for adults in Norfolk and Waveney from a professional team of qualified counsellors.
Living Well with Baby Webinar - Workshops for parents and carers with a baby, where the stresses of the parenting role is impacting on their wellbeing.
To speak to other Norfolk parents and carers, you can join our online community forum below.