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Self Confidence and Self Esteem

Self Esteem is the way we think about ourselves and how worthwhile we feel. If we have good self esteem, we will have self confidence – a belief in our ability to cope, and do our best.

When children and young people are facing changes, like making the move to high school, even confident children can feel wobbly. For those who have struggled with their self-esteem, and self-confidence before it may make those feelings stronger. When we feel good about ourselves, and have confidence it makes the challenges we face more manageable. It makes a difference to the relationships we choose and how much we can push ourselves to do our best.

  • Throughout our lives we can all work on, and improve our feelings about ourselves. This will make it easier for us to manage new experiences and challenges.  There are lots of ways that we can help ourselves and our children with this;

    • Be a good example - be positive in what you say about yourself, your child, and other people
    • Keep trying when you find things hard – even if it doesn’t always work out. You are showing your child that you can ‘survive’ things not going as you hoped
    • Notice and comment on the positives in your child’s personality, behaviour and achievements – children know when praise is genuine and when they deserve it
    • Encourage your child to eat well and get regular exercise
    • Have conversations about social media and how it doesn’t often show ‘real life’
    • Get your child to set themselves a challenge it could be reading a big book, or swimming more lengths – achieving a goal helps confidence and builds pride
    • If your child is worrying about new experiences, and how they will cope, remind them of things they have managed before and ask them to think how they coped then
    • Some people find big groups of friends hard. It’s ok to have one or two good friends.
    • Help them spend time with friends and family of all ages – chatting with the elderly or very young – can help to build a picture of themselves as being helpful and good company to others.


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Who Can Help?

You can contact the Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 or texting Parentline on 07520631590. Our service offers an Emotional Health Pathway specially designed to help young people manage difficult feelings. You can find out more about this here. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.

If you are 11-19 you can text Chathealth on 07480635060 for confidential advice from one of our team.


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