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Early Days

The nine months of pregnancy are divided into blocks of three months called ‘trimesters’. This helps make it easier to describe all of the changes happening during pregnancy and helps parents know what to expect.

Recently the three months after the baby is born has become known as the ‘fourth trimester’. This makes it easier to describe the many changes happening for babies and parents in the early days after birth.

When babies are newborn they continue to grow and develop at a fast rate physically and emotionally. The first three months is a period of a lot of change for parents too and it takes time to get used to.

It might sometimes feel like you should get back to ‘normal’ after your baby is born. Seeing these first few months as a time to recover, adapt and get to know your baby can take the pressure off.

Although the reality can be tougher than you expected you had probably been told about the practical changes a new baby brings. Some of the physical changes that happen after childbirth can come as a bit of a shock. 

 

  • You have just been through a big life event. Alongside the lovely ‘baby bubble’, having a new baby in the house is emotionally and physically demanding. It can put pressure on you and on your relationships. It will take time for things to begin to fall into place.

    It might be a bit easier if you;

    • Keep your baby close to you. So that you can respond to them quickly and easily.
    • Remember you cannot spoil babies – there can be pressure to ‘get into a routine’ but newborn babies cannot manage this. Being led by your baby takes a lot of stress and pressure away. The most important thing is to take time to get to know each other.
    • Prioritise getting rest whenever you can. It is tiring having a new baby in the house. It is ok to have some pyjama days!
    • Eat well and get back to activity at your own pace. Now is not the time for big diets – recovery and sleeplessness are more manageable when you eat a healthy diet. Exercise is good for your mental and physical health too. Look at our page on getting slowly back to activity *here*.
    • Talk about how you are feeling – you will have good and bad days. Try to be kind to yourself and talk to partners, friends and family. People understand it can be hard to cope sometimes.

    If everyday feels hard and it is getting in the way of you enjoying your baby speak to your midwife, health visitor or GP. You will not be judged and you don’t have to struggle on without support.

  • Leaving the warm, dark womb and arriving in a bright, noisy world must be a big shock. Babies have to get used to feelings like, hunger, discomfort and loneliness. Babies cannot meet any of their own needs and still aren’t quite sure who they can rely on. It is not surprising that it takes some time for them to settle down.

    • From about two weeks of age until they are a couple of months old babies tend to cry a lot. Read more about this *here*.
    • Your baby will want to be held a lot of the time. Being a separate little being takes some getting used to.

    Every baby is different. Taking time to get to know your baby and looking at things from your baby’s point of view can help you guess what they might need from you. When you are sensitive to your baby's feelings they learn to trust that they always have you on their side to help them.

    Calling the time between birth and three months ‘the ‘fourth trimester’ is a good reminder of all the changes that happen for babies. They rely on you to help them feel safe and get more confident.

    You can help your baby through this stage by;

    • Letting them hear familiar voices – one of the familiar things from the womb. 
    • Keeping them close and holding them when they ‘ask’ is important. Just like hunger and discomfort ‘wanting’ a cuddle is an important need to meet. Skin to skin time can help babies settle.
    • Keeping the number of people who feed and care for them low so that they can build a strong, trusting bond with parents and carers.
    • Noticing the faces they pull and the sounds they make - these baby cues are an important way of understanding what your baby needs.

    By the end of the fourth trimester your baby will have changed and learnt a lot. They might;

    • Be coping with milk feeds and be able to tell you when they are hungry.
    • Be beginning to know the difference between night and day!
    • Enjoy watching the world go by as their eyesight gets better.
    • Be used to the noises and smells and patterns to their day.
    • Enjoy using their ‘voice’ and letting you know how they feel.
    • Know you, trust you and reward you with their best smiles.

    The early days can be tough. Taking it slowly and giving yourself and your baby time to get to know each other takes time. Not putting pressure on yourself to be ‘super parents’ can take the stress away and make it a much more enjoyable time.

  • Having a baby is an amazing and emotional time. It can also bring with it big changes. You need to recover from giving birth and it might sometimes feel overwhelming. 

    As with all stages of early parenthood, it’s worth remembering that this stage will pass. In what seems no time at all, you might be looking back at the period with fondness at how tiny and attached to you your baby was when they were first born.

    You may feel that the first 3 months are really tough and you’re constantly one step behind your little one. But its important to also take time to look after yourself.

    • Make sure you eat and drink. If you are breastfeeding, your body burns even more energy. Make sure you stay hydrated and get enough to eat to help your body recover.
    • Say 'no' to visitors when you need to. If you are feeling overwhelmed, sometimes having too many visitors can be stressful. Be honest with your guests if you want some time alone with your baby.
    • Go for walks. Even if you aren't feeling up to full exercise yet, a small walk in the fresh air can be really good for energy and mood. 
    • Watch your favourite tv show. Don't forget your body is still recovering and sitting back relaxing on the sofa is a good way to let your body heal. 
    • Don't be afraid to ask for help. Ask for help from friends, relatives or neighbours. They will be delighted to meet your new baby and help you out.
  • Pregnancy and childbirth cause a lot of physical and emotional changes. You may have been able to maintain or improve your fitness during pregnancy or it may have been more difficult. You may have had a straightforward delivery and recover quickly, or it may have been more complicated and take longer.

    *Click Here* to find more information on how to safely get back into fitness.

  • During pregnancy your womb grows to about 25 times its normal size. After birth it has to ‘contract’ back down to near its usual size (it never goes quite back to pre-pregnancy size).

    In the first few days you may experience ‘after pains’ that feel a bit like milder contractions / period pain. The pains can be a bit stronger as you breastfeed (breastfeeding helps your womb return to size more quickly).

    • The after pains often seem a bit stronger after a second or more pregnancies.
    • Heat packs can help.
    • You could try paracetamol if the pains are strong.

    Pains usually fade over first few days. By 4 -6 weeks the womb size is back to its new normal. If the pains feel very strong or are worrying you talk to your midwife or call 111 for advice.

  • After your baby is born the blood and tissue left behind in the womb will come away as a vaginal loss. This is like a very heavy period, containing bright red blood and some clots in the early days.

    It then changes colour and the amount reduces. Vaginal bleeding can last a month or longer.

    • You need the super absorbent maternity sanitary towels in the early days.
    • You should not use tampons until after your post-natal check as they can increase the risk of infection.
    • There is advice on what loss to expect in the first days and weeks *here*.

    Speak to your GP, midwife or health visitor if you've got postnatal bleeding and any of these;

    • A high temperature over 38C
    • The bleeding smells unusual for you
    • Tummy pain that gets worse
    • The bleeding gets heavier or doesn't get any less
    • Lumps (clots) in the blood
    • Pain between the vagina and anus (perineum) that gets worse.

    These could be a sign of infection.

    Make sure you know the signs of a serious heavy bleed after giving birth (postpartum haemorrhage, or PPH). This is rare and needs emergency care.

    Call 999 if you've got postnatal bleeding and;

    • The bleeding suddenly gets heavier
    • You feel faint, dizzy or have a pounding heart.

    This could mean you're having a very heavy bleed (postpartum haemorrhage) and need emergency treatment.

  • The changes in hormone levels after pregnancy can cause ‘night sweats’ - where you wake in the night sweating a lot. You might also experience this in the day. It tends to be worse in the first couple of weeks but can last longer, particularly if you are breastfeeding.

    • Drink plenty of fluids to keep hydrated
    • Have a towel on the bed and spare nightclothes handy so you can get warm and dry quickly in the night.

    If you feel unwell alongside the night sweats, or if they are a big problem and / or goes on for a long time speak to your GP. Sometimes it can be a symptom of other things.  

  • During pregnancy the hormones mean that the usual natural hair loss slows right down.

    After delivery hormone levels get back to normal. This then causes you to shed the hair that you had held on to. It can feel like a lot of hair but it is a normal process and settles over the first year.

    • Treat your hair with care – avoid pulling and tugging it when brushing
    • Only tie back gently
    • Keep use of hairdryers and straighteners to a minimum.

    If you are worried that the amount of hair you are losing is causing bald patches, you can talk to your GP.

Who Can Help?

You can contact the Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 or texting Parentline on 07520 631590. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.

If you are 11-19 you can text Chathealth on 07480 635060 for confidential advice from one of the Healthy Child Programme team.

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