Ideas for Keeping Motivated
When your child is trying it is important to show them that you have noticed their efforts. You can do this through praise and reward.
This can help them focus on their goal. You are rewarding effort and progress not perfection.
What works as a reward will be different for every family. Get everyone involved to think of ideas
Rewards do not have to cost money. They should not be based around unhealthy foods or any other behaviours you are trying to change
Rewards are not about bribing or discipline.
- A bribe often happens in the moment to try and deal with unwanted behaviour.
- A reward is planned ahead with your child.
Rewards helps children to understand that making good decisions builds towards good things and makes them feel proud.
Sometimes your child might struggle to keep on track – it is important that rewards already earned are not taken away when this happens. Help your child understand that it is normal to have mistakes and wobbles. The important thing is to move on and try again
Rewards can be very simple; praising, thanking and hugging someone for positive behaviour is a great place to start.
Praise helps to build self-esteem and encourages us to keep going and try our best.
Remember that your time and attention is always a very powerful reward for children and young people.
Help your child actually see they are getting closer to their goal.
This can be as simple as a colourful tick or star chart on the fridge. Your child could mark every time they do 10 minutes exercise – when they have done 30 minutes 3 days on the trot they could get their reward.
Other ways children might see they are getting close to a reward are:
- Putting a piece of dried pasta / cotton wool ball in a small jar
- Make ‘fake’ money that they can ‘save’ to exchange for agreed rewards
- Make a flower that they can add ‘post-it’ achievement petals to
- Draw a ladder – move a cut out photo of your child up the ladder towards their goal (you could have the whole family climbing the ladder!)
Rewards allow your child to see their progress is valued. Rewards are a way of showing your pride in their efforts and making the person believe in themselves.
You may already have some ideas and your child will probably enjoy coming up with some too. Here are some of ours
- Time with your child when other family members are not around
- Read a book together – choose a new one from the charity shop
- Let them choose what’s for dinner - cook it together
- Choose a film to watch together
- Put them in charge - let your child be the parent and choose where you go, what you do, eat, watch and even go to bed!
- They choose the music in the car or the house
- Agree to a sleepover
- Make stuff – stickers, glitter paints, slime – get creative as a family
- Extra freedoms – reward their good decisions by letting them do something you feel they are ready for
- Go for a family bike ride
- Plan a day out together, visit a museum or the beach
Older children will still enjoy working towards a goal and being rewarded. They may want their efforts recognised in different ways
- Don’t forget to give them praise – they will like it (even if they pretend they don’t!)
- Make praise specific ‘it was great that you chose to walk home today instead of getting the bus – you are so much more active recently’
- They can use electronic devices to measure progress – maybe an app that records activity
- A family most ‘steps a day’ competition can work well
Plan together how and when you will celebrate their success.
Who Can Help?
If you are concerned about your child’s weight or eating habits and feel you need support then you can contact the Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 or texting Parentline on 07520631590. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.
If you are 11-19 you can text ChatHealth on 07480635060 for confidential advice from one of our team.
Alternatively you can go to see your GP to discuss concerns.
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