Everyone has times when they feel down. It might be because of challenges you are facing in your life, or you might not know why you are feeling low. It is normal to sometimes feel like this.
When you feel ‘low’ you may feel; sad, anxious, worried, frustrated or angry. You might feel better if;
- You keep busy and see supportive friends and family.
- You eat well and get enough rest.
- You get out in the fresh air – a brisk walk can help release ‘feel good hormones’. Take your children along; it will help everyone’s mood.
- Find time for yourself – it doesn’t have to be for long. Relaxation techniques can help, or even a bath, or watching something you have chosen on the TV.
Usually ‘feeling low’ will pass after a few days. You should have more time when you feel fine than when you don’t.
You might need more help if;
- The feelings last longer than a couple of weeks and you begin to feel that you have lost interest in things you used to enjoy.
- Your eating and sleeping patterns have changed.
- You don’t want to be with your family and friends and/or they are worried about you.
If you do not feel ‘safe’ and think you might hurt yourself, you should ask for an emergency GP appointment or go to A&E.
It is natural to feel worried at times. You might have something particular you are worrying about, or you might not know what is causing the anxious feelings. Either way it can feel overwhelming and be difficult to cope with.
It can help to;
- Talk to friends and family about how you are feeling.
- Try a mindfulness technique to calm down worried thoughts and help with physical symptoms of anxiety; like a fast heart beat and feeling sick.
You might need more help if;
- The feelings carry on for more than a couple of weeks.
- You feel restless, scared and like something bad will happen to others, or to you.
It is important to seek help to make life easier for you. If you have;
- Panic attacks that make it hard to carry on with your day.
- Begun to avoid situations that make you feel anxious.
- Begun to feel you must do things in a certain way - like cleaning or handwashing to keep safe.
If you are struggling like this please talk to a professional about it – see your GP or refer yourself to Norfolk Wellbeing Services. There are ways to take back control from your anxiety and services will help with this.
Parenting can sometimes feel lonely. You might not have close family or friends nearby. You might not know other parents with children locally.
You might live alone with your children, but people can also feel lonely even when they are in a relationship. You might have struggled to make friends before you had children, or you may have lost your confidence a bit since they were born.
It is good for our mental wellbeing to have other grown ups to talk to and to share the highs and lows of life with.
You might have lost touch with old friends and family whilst you have been busy with your family and feel embarrassed to get back in touch. It is always worth trying to reconnect. Send a text or a card, explain that you miss them and see if they want to catch up. You have nothing to lose! You may have moved to a new area and feel ready to meet new people.
You might find other parents in a similar situation at nursery or school, or even at the local park. Just smiling and saying hello to begin with can start off a connection. Be aware of your body language, it can be easy to give off ‘don’t talk to me‘ signals if you are feeling a bit nervous. Take a few slow deep breaths to help you feel ready to meet people.
- Smile and make eye contact.
- Speak clearly and confidently.
- Try and concentrate on what the person says ask a question to show you are listening. ‘I live near there too – have you been there long?’
You can find local parents keen to meet others by;
- Joining our Just One Norfolk online parenting community to talk to other parents local to you.
- Get in touch with Get Me Out The Four Walls - a Norfolk charity helping connect parents locally.
If you have the time volunteering, starting a course or finding work can be a good way of meeting new people too.
Who Can Help?
You can contact the Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 or texting Parentline on 07520 631590. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.
If you are 11-19 you can text ChatHealth on 07480 635060 for confidential advice from one of our team.
For 11–25 year olds Kooth is a free, confidential and safe way to receive online counselling, advice and emotional well-being support.
Childline - Children and young people under 19 can call 0800 1111 for free support.
Young Minds Parents Helpline - Call 0808 802 5544 for free Mon-Fri from 9.30am to 4pm.
See, Hear, Respond - Best Beginnings and Barnado's are providing free support to pregnant families and new parents struggling during the COVID-19 pandemic.
Living Well with Baby Webinar - Workshop for parents with a baby where the stresses of the parenting role is impacting on their wellbeing.
Alternatively you can go to see your GP to discuss concerns.