Your baby needs you to help them manage their feelings.
Skin to skin contact helps your baby to adjust to life outside the womb. It supports mums to start breastfeeding and helps parents to develop a close, loving relationship with their baby.
Spend time holding your baby so you get to know each other.
It’s great to have visitors and to show off your new baby. Remember it’s ok to ask people to come for a short time or not at all. You need time to settle into being a parent and that’s difficult to do if your house is always full of other people.
Just as you need to learn about your baby, they need to learn about you. They may be wide awake sometimes and seem really interested and then fall asleep quite quickly. Talk to your baby about what you think they might be feeling. Say things like:
‘Are you really tired?’
‘Are you getting cross?’
‘Are you happy’
‘Are you hungry?’
It doesn’t matter if you get it wrong or feel silly, your baby will feel better by you being there and talking to them.
Remember to take some time out when your baby is sleeping or being cared for by somebody else. Do something that you know will help you relax.
Who Can Help?
Your health visitor might talk to you about some online learning and support called Wellbeing in Motherhood. This online course lasts for 8 weeks and is offered by a health visitor and a therapist from the Wellbeing Service.
You can contact the Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 or texting Parentline on 07520631590. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.