Schools are well placed to model positive relationships.
• They can provide the space to think about how we make and maintain healthy relationships. Importantly school can also help pupils identify those relationships that are unhealthy, and how they can seek help.
All relationships should be built on trust, respect and good communication.
• School culture can encompass this by valuing kindness, inclusivity and taking responsibility for own actions.
• Schools can model positive relationships, and help children manage conflict in their friendship groups in a healthy way.
Helping children and young people build self-esteem and resilience is important.
• When children and young people recognise their self worth they will be less vulnerable to controlling and abusive friendships and other relationships.
Not all children will have the invaluable experience of being around healthy relationships.
• Children need to understand the difference between good and bad relationships
Childline have resources to help young people. This includes guidance on making a safety plan and a form to document it on.
• Young people are vulnerable to embarking on abusive relationships as both victim or perpetrator. In 2009 an NSPCC survey found that 25% of girls age 13-17 described abuse from an intimate partner.
There are additional complications for young people today. The dawn of smart phones and social media enables positive social connections. They also bring new risks and challenges like sexting, cyberbullying and contact by strangers.
• Young people need to be able to talk about these challenges openly so that they can understand risk and know when to seek advice. You can find out more about online safety *here*.
As children grow they need increased information about how to keep safe in intimate relationships.
• Children and young people need to understand consent and how to be confident to say no at any time and share when they feel worried or uncomfortable. There is guidance on this *here*.
Preparing young people to keep themselves safe both physically and emotionally as they embark on intimate relationships is an important role of those working with this group.
• Professionals need to consider Gillick Competency and Fraser Guidelines to be sure young people have the capacity to consent
• If you become aware that a young person aged under 13 is sexually active it is always a safeguarding concern and needs referral and assessment by children’s services (Sexual Offences Act 2003)
• Young people need to understand safe sex to avoid sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancy - Brook (who provide sexual health and wellbeing advice for under 25s) have information on this and accessing local services *here*.
Schools need to be mindful of gender, culture and religious beliefs that may impact on how children and young people fee. They may need extra help to access advice and support on intimate relationships. If young people have competency they should be able to decide for themselves what information and advice is relevant to them.
- Gov.uk - Relationships, sex and health education in schools - primary and secondary
- Terence Higgins Trust - training packages
- Guide to emergency contraception
- Brook online contraception tool
- Brook online sexual behaviours traffic light tool
- Brooke information about pornography
- The Mix - sexual consent information
- Childnet International resource - Young People and Social Networking
- Consent 'It's Simple as Tea' video
- Relationship checklist
- Healthy Relationships Toolkit - Canadian Red Cross
- Health for teens website to signpost pupils to
- Childline information about online pornography for pupils aged 12+
- Childnet International resource - online safety factsheet
- Childnet International - social media guide for teachers and professionals
- Using technology safety checklist
- Health Passport app for 16-19 year olds
- The Faculty of Sexual & Reproductive Healthcare abortion
- Factsheet to support RSE lessons
- Sexwise - contracptive choices
- Children and Young People's Mental Health Coalition - Why relationships are so important for children and young people.
- Norfolk County Council - Harmful Sexualised Behaviour Project and how to arrange a consultation
- Managing Sexualised Behaviour - useful guidelines
- Learning resource on Safe and Healthy Relationships.
- Keeping Safe Online - for people with learning disabilities
- Puberty and Sexuality - for people with learning disabilities
- Traffic Light Brochure
- Are you ready? checklist
- Teen power and control wheel
- Pyramid activity - partner characteristics
- Understanding Healthy Relationships 11-19 lesson plan
National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NCPCC) provide the lesson resources below. They also have a Teaching Resource Guidance document.
Key Stage 2 -
Key Stage 3 -
- Gender Stereotypes
- Healthy Relationships
- Safer Online Relationships
- Inappropriate Sexual Behavior
- Sharing of Sexual Images
Key Stage 4 -
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