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Staying Safe Around Others


As your child begins to spend more time away from you it is important that they have some understanding of how to keep themselves safe from abuse.

There are rules and laws for all organisations that look after children to reduce the risks of abusers being around children. You can look at the NSPCC’s guidance on what schools and clubs must do and the questions you can ask to check *here*.

  • ‘Stranger Danger’ has been the way we have tried to warn children about risks from others. However in 90% cases of abuse the person is known to the victim.

    It is important that we do not make children feel scared of everyone;

    • We need to talk to people we don’t know every day.
    • Your child should know most people do not hurt children.
    • Children do not really understand what a ‘stranger’ is and who is a risk – they might expect a stranger will look like a ‘baddie’.

    Children need to know when someone is doing something wrong and what to do.

    Talk to children about trusting their feelings;

    • They should get away from people who make them scared. Tell them to run straight to you or to a busy place if you are not there.
    • If someone says or does things that make them feel worried, scared, or hurts them they should tell a grown up. If that grown up does not help them they should tell another grown up.
    • They should know to do this even if they like or love the person.
    • They should know to tell even if the person has told them they must keep the secret / promised a special treat.

    Your child should know not to go off with anyone unexpectedly whether they are a stranger or they know them.

    • Talk to your child about the people you would send for them if they needed picking up in an emergency. Give them and your child a ‘secret password’ that you would use if you sent them.
    • Tell them to shout really loudly for help if someone tried to take them.
    • Teach your child your mobile number.

    If your child does get lost they should try and stand still to give you time to find them. If they need to ask for help they should go to a Mum with children, or a person on the till at the shops.
    Look at our section on online safety to be sure your child is safe from others when they use the internet.

Who Can Help?

You can contact the Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 or texting Parentline on 07520 631590. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.

If you are 11-19 you can text ChatHealth on 07480 635060 for confidential advice from one of our team.

Alternatively you can go to see your GP to discuss concerns.

*Click Here* to speak to other Norfolk parents and carers, you can join our online community forum. 

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