Development In Older Children
- Gross Motor Physical Development
- Fine Motor Physical Development
- Problem Solving
- Personal & Social Development
- If You Are Worried
During adolescent years, communication skills continue to grow and mature.
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Gross motor skills use big muscle groups.
Being active and exercising muscles is important for strength. Older children and young people should get at least 60 minutes exercise a day and should include activity that gets the heart beating faster. Being physically active is good for mood too. Some children and teens are less keen to be active as they get older. Encourage them to keep up with sports they enjoy or try new ones. If parents are active it sets a good example and helps exercise habits seem ‘normal’ in your family.
Fine Motor Skills allow us to use the muscles in our hands.
Activities where your child uses their hands tend to be good for relaxing. Encourage them to carry on drawing and making stuff. Learning how to knit, sew, and do DIY or woodwork are good ways for young people to de-stress too.
The ‘thinking and working through’ part of the brain is one of the last to fully develop in the teenage brain. Teenagers tend to act now and think later and are more likely to seek out thrills and take risks; their brain development makes them this way.
It is not always easy to get adolescents to share their thoughts and feelings with you. Trying to keep talking and communicating can give your child the opportunity to think through the actions and choices of themselves and others. This can help them in the ‘heat of the moment’. Relate have good advice on having an open and positive relationship with your older child *here*.
Your young person won’t always make good decisions. Knowing that they can turn to you for support when they get it wrong, as well as praise when they get it right gives them a strong foundation as they move towards independence.
Giving them more practical responsibilities and getting them to organise themselves for their day to day life is good preparation for independence.
- More and more it should be up to them to get ready for the school day – have the right homework completed and be on time. They will soon learn there are consequences if they don’t.
- Over time support them to cook, clean, do their own washing - important life skills they will need.
- Let them make choices on how they spend their money. Helping them understand that once money is gone it is gone!
Have boundaries for your child. You should still know where your child is and who they are with, and when they will be home. Talk to your child about the reasons for rules – if you are able to agree them together your child is more likely to stick to them. Your older child will need to have more freedom and trust - but know that they earn and keep this by their actions.
Around now friends outside of the family unit begin to have a lot of influence over your children. This is normal. You still have an important role to play in helping your child make good decisions and cope with the challenges of being a young person.
Friendship and relationship good times and upsets will be a part of their life. Listening to how they feel and not always feeling the need to ‘fix it’ will give your child the space to think things through. There are some tips from Young Minds on listening *here*.
Firstly remember that each child will develop at their own pace.
Talk to your child's teacher; tell them about your worries – they may be able to work with you to build your child’s skills and advise on any next steps needed.
If you are worried you can contact our Just One Number team on the details below to talk through your concerns.
Who Can Help?
You can contact the Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 or texting Parentline on 07520 631590. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.
Young people aged 11-19 can text Chat Health on 07480 635060
The Patient Activation Measure (PAM) Health Questionnaire will help you to think about your knowledge, skills and confidence in understanding and supporting your baby or child’s health. The results of this can help us, to support you, in setting goals and priorities in a way that is right for you and your family. On completion of the questions you will be signposted to some self care resources which are tailored to your responses. This will help you to take steps to improve your family's health and wellbeing. *Click Here* to find out more.