There are around 3.9 million children growing up in the UK with separated parents. It is not uncommon.
Children can cope really well with this arrangement if they are not caught up in ongoing arguments and unhealthy relationships between their parents. The separation can be a relief to everyone if things had been difficult before the separation.
Ideally children should be able spend time with both of their parents. When parents are able to continue to work together to support their child and make decisions that affect their lives children can continue to thrive. If at all possible children value both parents being able to come to school events and share in their good and bad moments. A reliable routine of when children will see each parent help them stay connected and feel secure.
This is of course not always the case. Some parents continue to struggle to be around each other and continue to feel angry and upset about how the relationship ended. There may be financial and practical issues that make it hard. The relationship may have been abusive and not safe for your child to be around. Some parents do not choose to continue to see their children, and some parents make it difficult for the other to do so. In these situations children will find it much harder to cope and may feel ‘stuck in the middle’.
If you are worried that your child needs support to cope with their feelings talk to school about this. Or contact Just One Norfolk for advice on the contact details below.
Having parents who are looking after their own wellbeing at a difficult time will make a difference to you, and how your child feels too. Talk to family and friends. If you are struggling access your own help; contact Norfolk Wellbeing Services *here*.
Schools are sensitive to the difficulties families face. If this has happened before your child starts school, or whilst they are attending, let the staff know. This will let them keep an eye on any changes in your child’s behaviour and be sensitive to their feelings. They can also help both parents keep updated on their child’s school life.