Balancing the different needs of everyone in the family is never easy. This is especially the case when a child in your family has additional needs.
It can be hard to find time to give your child one to one time when you have another child who needs a lot of your attention. It is really important that you find some moments where your other child knows you are focussed on them.
If you have a partner, friend or family member who helps you out then this may be easier to manage. Ask them to be with your child with additional needs for a while (even if you and your other child are just in the next room).
If you do not have someone to give you this space;
• Check if you are eligible for any respite care. You can discuss this with any professionals that work with your child, call JustOneNumber on 03003000123 or contact Norfolk County Council’s Respite Services
• Look at the routines in the house, can you shift things to give time to your other child? Is there a time of day which is quieter for you? Could they go to bed 15 minutes later so they have time with you? Could you sometimes have a separate mealtime together? Read a story?
Listening to your child and talking to them will give them time to make sense of their thoughts and feelings. There are some good ideas for communicating with your child about how they are coping *here*.
Give your child age appropriate information about the condition their sibling struggles with. Keep them up to date on any changes. Brothers and sisters worry about each other and manage better when they have the right information.
Keep your child’s school updated with what is happening in the family. They can offer your child extra support if they are struggling.
There may be sometimes when it is just not realistic to set aside time to be with your children individually.
• Let your children know why it is difficult right now.
• Is there a trusted adult who your children enjoy spending time with; this may give them further opportunities to talk about how they are feeling.
Siblings often benefit from the chance to be with other children who have someone in their family with additional needs. Norfolk Family Carers can offer advice and support on this. Your child does not have to be providing direct care to access this support.
Caring for a child with additional needs can leave you tired and stressed at times. You may feel the strain of trying to meet everyone’s needs. Sometimes you may react in the moment and regret what you have said or decisions you make. If it is happening a lot then it can be a sign that you are struggling; talk to family and friends and / or call the numbers below for more support.
Who Can Help?
You can contact the Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 or texting Parentline on 07520 631590. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.
If you are 11-19 you can text ChatHealth on 07480 635060 for confidential advice from one of our team.
Alternatively you can go to see your GP to discuss concerns.
*Click Here* to speak to other Norfolk parents and carers, you can join our online community forum.